Saturday, January 24, 2009
I feel so lucky to have friends and family that love me and are so good to me! Thanks for making me feel loved on my birthday!
I'm not sure if I had more fun watching the kids in the bounce house or watching the adults watch the kids!
Ashlyn, Jason and Danny Rickards
Me and Ashlyn
Ashlyn, Austin and Colton
Austin, Colton, Ashlyn and Lauren
Ashlyn and Austin ( I love his grin in this picture!)
It is always worth the drive to spend time with our family! We always leave wishing we had more time!
Danale, Justin and Colton
Monday, January 19, 2009
Since I had only been skiing once before, Jason took me over to the bunny hill before we went up the lift. He reminded me what I am supposed to do and then waited at the bottom. I'm not sure if is purpose was to be there in case I ended up in a pile at the bottom of the little hill or to embarrass me with a bunch of pictures where I look like a total goober! Here is one of them...
Can you see the "I have no idea what I am doing" look on my face? Haha! Patience has never been one of my strong characteristics, so after one time down the bunny hill, I was ready to go!
We were so glad we went up. It was so peaceful riding the chair lift up and was a beautiful day! We had fun skiing and seeing our friends!
We were pretty tired from the night before, so when we got a call from Riley saying she wasn't feeling well, we were okay cutting our short day even shorter. My mom took my kids so Riley could go.
We had spent the car ride up talking about what had happened the night before. I talked to Emily's mom who said she was doing much better and had been all stitched up. Emily called to say she was sorry again and thank us for helping her. The boys had come by the hospital with their parents to see how Emily was and to apologize to her mom.
When we got home, I sent Riley a text to see how she was doing. She said she was okay, but she hadn't been able to eat or sleep and she kept thinking about the accident. I figured that meant she hadn't told her parents. I asked her if she wanted to come over and talk about it and she said she didn't think she could.
Jason and I were finally taking down our Christmas tree, but I couldn't get Riley off my mind. All of the sudden I had this feeling that there was something that I didn't know about the night before. I sent her another text asking her if something else happened.
No response. I went back to the tree for a few minutes, but couldn't shake it. I sent another text. "You can trust me." (Yes, I asked her permission before I wrote this post.)
A minute later she text back. "Ya. I'm coming over. Is that ok?"
I was so glad she was coming, but I was really worried something bad had happened.
I'm sure most of you think I am crazy for not thinking that sneaking out and getting in a car accident is that bad. I am more about a persons intentions. If they were sneaking out to hook up with a boyfriend, or do something illegal, that is one thing, but that wasn't the case. They shouldn't have done it, but I wasn't worried about their salvation. Getting in a car accident for driving on campus is just plain stupid. I mean really. It is teenagers thinking they are invincible and funny. They thought it would be fun and daring. They weren't driving around on the grass or trying to be destructive. They just thought it would be fun to drive on the pathways...fast. Not so smart.
But now, I was worried. She came in and gave both of us a hug. She had tears in her eyes. We sat down to talk and she burst into tears. "I was driving the car!"
I was relieved that was all it was! I knew her parents needed to know. The best way to get a teenager to do something is not to tell them to do it, but to help them see that they want to. We talked for a long time about trust responsibility, honesty, how she felt then vs how she would feel when she told the truth, how she would feel letting the boys take the blame, getting in trouble now or carrying her guilt for the rest of her life.
We talked a little bit more about the seriousness of what they did. They are really lucky that nobody died! Every year, you read those stories in the newspaper about the good kids who had everything going for them, made a stupid mistake and one of them died. We had reminded the kids of this the night before, but we talked about it again. She finally decided to tell her parents. We talked a little bit more just to make sure she wasn't going to change her mind. She said she knew she would get in a lot of trouble, but it was the right thing to do.
When she left, Jason and hugged each other and felt a huge relief. We were proud of our little Riley. Okay, she is almost 17, but we were still proud of her. It is hard to own up to something, especially if you think you already got away with it. We could tell she felt so much better as she was leaving. She was going to do the right thing.
I couldn't believe that her friend was going to take the blame for it! He had a crush on one of the other girls, but I can't believe he was going to stick to his story so she wouldn't get in trouble. He didn't tell his mom until Riley called him when she was on her way to tell her parents!
So, the parents know, the kids all got in trouble and life goes on.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Sometimes when she comes, she asks if she can bring a friend. I don't mind as long as the kids are taken care of. Since Riley has gotten her drivers license, I see a lot more of her and her friends. There are three of them that are almost always together and recently one more was added to the group.
The officer started to short circuit! He started shouting out numbers into his walkie that is attached to his shoulder and yelling at Emily's mom that he needs her drivers license and wanted to know what hospital they were going to and on and on! I think he had one too many cups of coffee or something.
Humm. Okay. How come these boys are more honest with me than my girls? My girls. I think of them as my girls. I feel protective of them and worry about them when they get in little spats with each other or aren't doing well in school. These are my girls that I trust. Who cares if they were on the Buchanan campus? Does that make it really any worse? I suppose it just makes things make a little more sense because something didn't feel right about the whole story. Maybe that was the missing piece. They had this wise idea to drive on the high school campus and got in an accident. Nobody was drinking or doing drugs or anything like that. Okay.
We heard the girls up downstairs and went down to talk to them. Sami and Melissa had just left. Their parents had said they needed to be home by 10am. Riley said she was feeling fine, but she still looked worried. She said she was okay and wanted to babysit. Jason and I protested, but she insisted that she was okay and she really wanted to babysit. She felt bad for what happened and didn't want to ruin our day on top of what had already happened. We thought about it for a bit and decided that Ashlyn would go back down for a nap in about an hour and she could go back to sleep then. At that point, we weren't super excited about going skiing, but it was getting silly that we just couldn't make it up the mountain! I think Riley wasn't ready to see her parents anyway, so we figured if we went, it would give her a little more time to think about it.
We packed up our stuff and headed out, double checking that she was really okay. This is a crazy long post, so I will stop here. Part 2 coming soon!
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Sunday, January 4, 2009
I think it started last week. The kids went to visit their Grandpa in Modesto to spend some time with Travis' family. (He is still in Iraq.) Jason and I try to take advantage of our time without the kids to just be a couple. My mom agreed to watch Ashlyn for the weekend so we could spend some time together and go skiing. I'm not a great skier but we had so much fun when we went last year, that we were looking forward to going again.
Jason at the cabin
The kids came home Sunday. The next few days are sort of a blur. Jason took the kids to the ranch, but the house was demanding my attention so I stayed home. I thought I would put away Christmas before New Year's Eve, but laundry seemed to be never ending and I am still trying to find homes for the wonderful toys we all got for Christmas. The kids had fun with friends and LOTS of sleepovers.
On one of my trips up the stairs, I noticed spots on the carpet on almost every step. At first, I thought it was chocolate that someone must have stepped in, but then it looked more like jelly and when I last checked, the kitchen was clean. I started to call up to the kids to check their feet, but when I reached the top of the stairs I saw this laying in the carpet.
Ashlyn loves to get into my makeup! I found her covered in lipstick! She had tried to put it on and then stuck her fingers in it! The spots on the stairs were from her coming down to tell me! Once again, the cleaning solution that Jason teased me for buying from a door to door salesman came to the rescue! It got the crayon out of my laundry and now lipstick out of carpet! Totally worth every penny. I just looked at the name and it is called Clean & Simple, for any of you that wanted to know!
I was too afraid of the mess spreading to take any pictures, but here is the little stinker all cleaned up after the lipstick mess. Good thing she is cute huh?
Thanks Aunt Danale for the cute outfit!
One of those nights, like I said- it's all kind of a blur, we were in a small car accident. Jason and I were on our way home from dropping Lauren off at a friends house. We only had Ashlyn with us and we were hit by another car when we were stopped at a stop sign! I was twisted around, trying to hand something to the baby when we were hit. I was pretty sore for a few days, but Jason and Ashlyn seemed to be fine. Our car wasn't hurt , but our trailer hitch went right through the other car's front bumper! Their car was pretty beat up. The guy felt really bad. He was probably 20 and driving his parents BMW! It was pretty foggy and he said he had been driving all day. Poor guy. He was pretty shook up.
Then it was New Year's Eve. We didn't really have plans this year. Riley, our babysitter, was coming over early so Jason and I could go out, but she was going to the New Year's Eve Dance at the church later that night. As we were leaving to meet up with my parents and my brother, Sterling, and his wife, Katie, who were in town, we got a call from our friends who were getting together that night, staying at the cabin and going skiing the next day. Fun!
My mom offered to take the kids over night after we were done eating and I lined up a babysitter for the next day. After dinner, went home and packed up and met up with our friends. They were all talking about the "Fear Factor" challenge they had just done. Lynette put together a bunch of crazy looking stuff to eat for a prize. It sounded really disgusting! It was fun to hang out and bring in the New Year with friends that we love.
We got back to the cabin and ended up staying up until around 4AM! We love to sit around and talk, but we couldn't believe it got so late! I think we would have stayed up all night if Margaret hadn't reminded us that someone had to get up with the kids. Ours weren't there, but we knew the morning would come early!
We were pretty tired the next day and went in circles in the morning about going skiing or not. We finally decided that we were all too tired and our friends would probably miss the cut off time to put their kids in ski school anyway. We decided to hang out around the cabin and go to a near by snow park with the kids and go skiing the next day. Bummer. We didn't bring the kids up the night before because the girls haven't shown any interest in skiing and I wasn't sure I was ready to shell out the money if they didn't care. Austin learned how to snow board, but we thought it would be fun this time to just be us and not be parents for a minute. BUT, I would feel awful playing in the snow without the kids because I know they would love that! I love to watch them when they are excited and happy! Those are the best moments of being a mom.
SO, we decided to head back down the mountain and get the kids. When we got there, we had to pack a million things! Sleeping bags, clothes, snow clothes, diapers and everything that has to come with a babies, get a babysitter for the next day, food for the kids while we were skiing, etc. It was a little crazy and we hadn't had much sleep. We made it back up the mountain just as everyone was getting back to the cabin from playing at the snow park. Our timing had been awesome the last few days! Yes, that was sarcastic. See what I mean? Just one beat off...
The kids still played in the snow around the cabin and couldn't stop saying how beautiful the snow was. It was fun to watch them play, but I felt bad it was already so late and they wouldn't be able to go sledding with their friends.
Jessica and Lauren
Little Lauren Lou